- Posted by Leigh Frost
- On April 6, 2018
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It’s not easy being a single dad after divorce, but you can do it like a superstar with these nine tips for being a successful single dad.
Don’t Talk Badly of Your Ex in Front of the Kids
It may be too much to ask that you never talk badly about your ex, but at least don’t do it when the kids are around. At the end of the day, that person is their parent too.
Establish a Support Network
Dads seem to have a weakness for wanting to do it all themselves, but raising your kids as a single dad is not easy, so make a point of reaching out for help when necessary.
Think Both Short and Long Term
When it comes to kids, the luxury of focusing on either the short term or the long term doesn’t exist. Dads often like to narrow things down to a simple objective, but in this case, a broader view is needed.
Remember to Have Fun as a Parent
Though it may seem that this is not the time for it, having fun is an important part of childhood development. You’ll form great memories that you will cherish regardless of the turmoil you may be in right now.
Develop Tools to Stay Calm
Parenting can drive people to their limits even without the added stress of separation and divorce, so recognize that you are going to be severely put to the test. The worst thing you can do is lose your temper, so learn to talk yourself down or step back when necessary.
Look After Yourself
The better physical and mental shape you are in, the better able you will be to look after others. Not neglecting yourself may be the best single dad advice.
Be Prepared to Say No
Perhaps you weren’t the parent who said no before, and it doesn’t feel right now. Well, start, because saying no and setting boundaries is important for kids to feel secure, even if they make a good show of protesting it.
Become a Great Scheduler
One of the most important habits of successful single parents is being able to juggle many balls at a time.
Nurture Your Parental Instincts
You may not be used to facing parenting challenges as frequently as you are now and are used to turning elsewhere for advice. That’s not going to be possible as much now so learn to tune in to your natural parenting instinct.
Don’t Fester or Wallow
This does nothing but suck up time and makes everyone continue to dwell on an unfortunate situation.
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